Be responsible-Take a Look at Yourself

How accountable are you? Does it depend on the situation, or are you always ready to accept responsibility for your decisions and behaviours? On a scale of 1-10, with 1 representing "Never" and 10 representing "Always," rank yourself on each of these characteristics of accountability. They apply equally to professional and personal situations.

1. I communicate regularly and accurately with associates.
2. If I don't understand something, I seek out information.
3. I own my own problems and circumstances.
4. When I make a mistake, I admit it.
5. I am proactive, often taking the initiative.
6. I ask for the things I need to do my job.
7. I analyze my activities and ask, "How is this contributing to organizational objectives?"
8. I analyze my activities and ask, "What more can I do?"
9. I stand and deliver when it's time to report on my actions.
10. I welcome feedback.
11. I model accountability for the people I work with and supervise.
12. I readily confront unaccountable behaviour in others.

Obviously, the higher the score, the better. Take a second look at items on which you ranked yourself at the low end of the scale. What can you do to become more accountable in those areas?

Being responsible- Be accountable stop playing the blame game

One way of measuring responsibility is accountability, but sometimes it seems like ducking responsibility has become epidemic. It is easy to pass the buck on someone these days and blame them for something we opt to be responsible for. In politics, sport, media, and our little communities everyone is playing the blame game

Accountability is a traditional idea that says you are responsible for your actions—and inactions. For the sake driving a clear point at you I am going to ask you a couple of tough questions today, are you are ready. If a questions comes up or something goes wrong, are you will to raise your hand and admit the part you played? are you open to scrutiny?

Unaccountable people are into excuses, blaming others, putting things off, doing the minimum, acting confused and playing helpless. They pretend ignorance while hiding behind doors, computers, paperwork, jargon and other people They say things like "I didn't know, "I wasn't there," "I don't have time," "It's not my job," That's just the way I am," "Nobody told me," "It isn't really hurting anyone," and "I'm just following orders." Unaccountable people are quick to complain and slow to act. In organizations, lack of accountability is a highly contagious disease.- Dianne Schilling (womens media)

If feel like I still have a lot to say about this topic so if you want to become more accountable you better be prepared for what’s on the menu tomorrow.

Being responsible- Take charge

“We must first become the change we want to see before the change comes to us” Mahatma Gandhi

Isn’t it interesting that Mahatma Gandhi went to inspire a nation of close to half a billion people to take charge and win their freedom from the British? I say interesting because he did this by advocating a non-violent way of winning this freedom. The part of his quote I really want to focus on is “we must first become” in other words we must first take charge or we must first be responsible and then the change we desire will follow.

Have you ever heard the story of this woman who woke up one morning and started complaining to her husband and kids that the house had a foul smell? If you have heard not it, here is your chance to hear it......now am told this woman said she would leave the house until her husband and kids had cleared the foul smell from the house, so she went to the hairdressers and at the hair dressers the some smell followed her. There too she complained saying;

“Can’t you buy Ambi pure for your salon or something I can’t stand that smell I am leaving until you sort out that smell?”

With frustrated look on her face off she went holding her nose saying,

“I can’t stand places that smell”

To make herself feel better she decided to buy herself a new pair of shoe and guess what at the shoe shop the same smell followed her.

You might ask how will I know when to take charge? Look at your life and ask yourself this what smell is following me around, what is the one thing or things I keep complaining about? How come it’s always everybody fault and not me? If you are ready to think this way then you are ready to take charge.

I was hoping you would leave a comment and let me know what you think of the blog so far?

Being responsible- The word?

Remember yesterday I said we were going to start taking about taking control, please see the quote below by Leo Tolstoy and ponder on what it might mean to you.....?

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but nobody thinks of changing themselves” Leo Tolstoy

There are many reasons am in love with the English Language, but the most important reason is the flexibility you have in terms of using one word to describe another word. When it comes to the word responsibility this holds true more than any other word I can think of right now. Before I can fully dive into the many words to describe responsible, will you please allow me to present you with the best definition I have found for the word responsible;

1. Liable to be required to give account, as of one's actions or of the discharge of a duty or trust.

2. Involving personal accountability or ability to act without guidance or superior authority: a responsible position within the firm.

3. Being a source or cause.

4. Able to make moral or rational decisions on one's own and therefore answerable for one's behaviour.

5. Able to be trusted or depended upon; reliable.

6. Based on or characterized by good judgment or sound thinking: responsible journalism.

7. Having the means to pay debts or fulfil obligations.

8. Required to render account; answerable:

Looking at the 8 line definition above, have you being a responsible person?


In the next coming days I am going to talk more about responsibilities and taking control, I feel like I ought to tell you something about myself you don’t yet know. Part of anything big and significant that is waiting to happen in your life is waiting for you to put the keys to the door called responsibility. Friend will you accept this invite?

I will be sharing the stories that I have helped me become responsible...stay tuned you don’t want to miss an episode of this........

The law of control

“I feel happy to the degree to which I am in control” Andrew Bobaa
The level you feel that you are happy in control dictates your level of happiness. Have you ever been in the passenger seat, riding with a really bad driver? They are swerving in and out of traffic, looking way too much at you while they are driving, right on the back side of the car in front of you.
While you are in the passenger seat, you are stressed out, not happy, not relaxed. This goes for life. When you are not in control of your life you are not happy you are stressed out, full of fear worry, anxiety.
When life is out of control and you are a victim to circumstances, it is impossible for you to be happy. When you feel like you have to go work, you have to do what the boss says and you have to go home to a marriage that feels like a trap, you have no control over your life whatsoever. The only time you have control is when you have control of the remote control to watch what you want on telly. This is why so many people spend so four to five hours a day watching tel-a lie-vision. You know why because it is the only time they have a sense of peace, because it is the only time of the day they feel like they are in control.
Readers, ask yourself this, what am l in control of? the remote control or my life? Stay tuned tomorrow we will embark on journey of taking control.

A test for you-take 3 on mental attitude

You know yesterday introduced you to the concept of locus of control today i have test that will tell you which one you are. Please leave a comment on the blog telling me what you thought about the test and at the end of march i will reveal something amusing about the test and locus of control......for the test follow the link below

http://similarminds.com/locus.html


In life you will find that all successful people have an internal locus of control, while the unsuccessful or average has an external locus of control. The same is true that happy people have an internal and unhappy/ depressed people external locus of control.

Look at it this way. You are riding in the car of life. If you are an external locus of control person the problem is that you are in the passenger seat. You have no control over where the car is going. If the car is headed for the trees, you have to brace yourself. If it is headed for the cliffs just hold on. There is nothing you can do apart from scream and just hope to luck out for a change.

Internal locus of control makes you have control of your life. As soon as we take responsibility for our lives they begin to change and we start have control over them. It is about time that you say, “ I have the ability to become successful, i have gifts , the talents needed to make my financial, relational or educational dreams a reality. You know out there are millionaires or successful people out there who are not as smart as me, as gifted as i am. I am turning the car around and i am headed towards my dreams, aspirations and my goals in life. I have no one to blame. Instead i take charge of my life.

I dare you to start thinking like this.....if that’s a dare you accept then start making time for the things i will be speaking about from tomorrow....I will see you then....

More talk about mind set, are you an inner or an outer person?

How many of you have heard this saying “it takes one to know one” well read on and discovery something new today. There are two types of people those with an external locus of control that is things that happen externally affect them on the inside i.e. they will blame everything that happens to them on someone else or something else you will hear them say it is the economy’s fault, it is my bosses fault, my parents or spouse fault. They have no control over life, life controls them and they feel they have to sit back and take whatever life throws at them.
Then there is the person with an internal locus of control meaning their life is controlled from the inside out. What it is in you produces itself outside of you. My external world is a mirror image of my internal world. I am in charge of my life by controlling me, my thoughts, my attitudes and my behaviours. If I change in me, I change out of me. If I take control of my thoughts, I take control of my emotions, of my attitudes. And I control my world from the inside out; this means if I don’t like something about my life I have the power to change it.
So I ask you my friend which one are you or would you rather be.....???