Why don’t people like to take risks?

If you look at human history, nation’s history and our own personal family history you will notice that the stories that inspire us the most are of those who were willing to take the risks against all odds. Just think of the story of David and Goliath, Queen Elizabeth the first and England during world war two. Those stories clearly illustrate the important of taking risk in the mist of impossible odds, it almost like the courage that you could not find while waiting to take the action is sometimes provided when you actually take the action. One of the biggest enemies of risk taking is procrastination.

Procrastination

Sometimes we find excuses not to do the things we need to do in order to get to where we need to get to. You will hear people say, the weather is not favourable, the time is not right or I will wait to do this when the conditions are right. What this does is it gives them an excuse to stay where they are. To them I would say do put on your rain coat and work with the weather you have been given, the time is always right as that is the only thing that is constant and never changing we only get 24 hours of it so start using it wisely.

Procrastination can be cancer that if not checked and remedied early can cause inaction and indecision in other areas of your life. The victims of this cancer are Lyning in many grave yards today with their dreams unfulfilled. Because procrastination robed them off the courage and will to do whatever dreams they have in their hearts. It is my mission to help cure this cancer but I will need to start with you. PLEASE FIGTH PROCRASTINATION. Because it is a robber of dreams, hopes and achievements.

“If you don’t have ago you’ll never know, and if you don’t begin then you can never win. But even if you have been if you have been putting your life off, remember it’s not how you finish that really counts. It is up to each and every one of us to make our life really happening and if nothing is ever ventured the nothing can be gained. This is truly your time. So take a deep breath, step into life and go for it” Bill Longridge

Why don’t people like to take risks?

For the most part majority of people are afraid to take risks. They are afraid of the unknown, afraid of leaving their comfort zone, or afraid of changing their patterns and routine. The opposite is true for people who take risk and change things around them, they embrace the unknown, they are happy to leave their comfort zones and by changing their patterns and routines they invite the world to join in and experience the world they have created. Let’s look at some of the reasons why people are scared of taking risk.

Fear

It could be the fear of a boss, a person, a reaction or change. Whatever fear it is it deny’s a lot of people the opportunities experience the best the world has to offer. Some fear has its root in past experiences. Very often we might experience rejection from our parents or peers or even girls or boys and we grow up afraid of rejection, so we let our fear of rejection lock us out of great and wonderful opportunities to meet other people and get to know them. This sort of fear limits us and normally clings on to past experiences evaluating the present using the past. To release yourself for this always remember that every person is different.

On the other hand they are those who have a low opinion of themselves. Maybe because of what they have been told over and over again about how stupid they are, or that they will never amount to anything, or don’t even think about. These words that other people have spoken over their lives have imprisoned them to the point where they think lowly of themselves. I want you pose and list the positive things people have said about you, now list the positive things you personally know about you? Now every time you are tempted to think negative about yourself look at your list of positive that is who you truly are.

The value of risk taking

In life you will find that everything we do that has a reward to it also involves some risk. There is no reward without risk. You cannot go from crawling to walking without the risk of falling down. When a baby decides that he does not want to crawl for the rest of his life, he will keep getting up and falling down until he learns how to walk. He would not be rewarded with walking or running if he did not take that risk.

If you want to date you have to risk rejection and ask somebody out first. It may take six to seven times before someone says yes but you will have your reward when they do. You have to take risks to reap rewards. I remember I was rejected recently but I felt good and satisfied because at least I was brave to ask. I can’t image anything worse than not risking it. What I do know is I will step out again and again and each time learning and growing and eventually a door will open.

God wants you to get up and take some risks so he can help you. His word says that he will guide your steps but he cannot guide your steps if you are sitting on your behind. Step out and move a little and God can direct you and guide you into some areas you need to take risks so that you will gain great rewards.


Remember we are all waiting for you to step out and pour out you gifts and talent. You are not going to fly without risking the fall. You already have wings why don’t you just flap them and begin to fly. I sense some reading this blog have music that we long to hear, some have books that will transform and revolutionizine our thinking, and some have inventions that will change the world. Friends why don’t step out now and begin to take control of your destiny.

The value of risk taking

“Man or woman cannot conquer new oceans unless they are willing to lose sight of the shore “ Les Brown

A lot of people are risk adverse so they would avoid anything that would require them to stretch beyond their current comfort zone. What they don’t realize is you cannot achieve success without first stepping out. They have become comfortable with just getting by and being average. The truth is unless you step out and start doing what you think you can achieve you will always be still wondering whether it is possible to achieve. I want rouse you to stop playing it safe and push your boat out and start conquering oceans.

Allow me to illustrate about a month and half ago I stepped out and started writing this blog. Up to this point I have always said to myself I will start my blog on day. When I actually stepped out and started writing this blog, my writing has improved, I no longer think of writing as a daunting task. I actually enjoy it become it engages my mind and increases my understanding of the topics I write on.

Second illustration is from a book called the richest man in Babylon. There was a livestock merchant who travelled from town to town buying and selling cattle, sheep and goat. Now during this time the Babylonian army was at war with a city called Assiria. One day this livestock merchant set out to buy livestock and as he got to Assiria night was setting in. And since during the war nobody was allowed in at a certain time, He pitched his camp outside the gate.

Now during the night at around 12 O’clock a rich Arab Merchant whose wife was very sick he arrived and asked the livestock merchant if he wanted to buy all his stock for half price. The livestock merchant was in a double mind whether to take a risk and buy at that time and get the whole lot and get for half price. But because he was risk adverse he said he will wait until the following morning. Well at around 5 O’clock at the first break of sun light the city gates where open and the Arab merchant had offers of 10 times the amount he wanted to sell at mid night. The livestock merchant am sure went away crying and blaming himself for not taking the opportunity.

Stop and take stock are you missing out on opportunities because you are waiting for the right conditions?

A life driven by purpose

It is said that there are 3 kinds of people, those who are not aware of what is happening. Something significant could be happening around them but they will bury the heads in the sound like an ostrich and let every opportunity pass them by. Second is the type who asks what just happened, this are the sort of people who hear of what happening, think to themselves it can’t happen is and once it happens they say to themselves what just happened. In other words they don’t believe in the possibilities. And lastly they are those who make things happen they are the ones who cause society to progress, improve our standard of living and create opportunity they are the purpose driven crew. Here are further benefits for living a purpose driven life;

Purpose will motivate your life- If you want to have zeal; passion and enthusiasm in life discover your purpose for living. You know when you have purpose and it truly get holds of you it does not matter what life throws at you, you will be able to stand up again, and again and carry on, on the journey.

Purpose will focus your life – One way to become more productive and effective in life is to know what to focus on. Purpose will help you get your priorities right and focus on what is important and discard what is not. Without a clear purpose you will keep changing direction, jobs, and relationships hoping each will bring the answers you grave to get you fulfilled. But when you have purpose you will clear understand what is for you and what is not.

Purpose will prepares you for eternity- People always strive to create a legacy for themselves here on earth, yet what matters most is what God thinks about how you have lived in life. You only live in your life time, and after you die you have to give an account of your life. At the start of life we have all being given a purpose to full fill here on earth. If you go back from where you came having not fulfilled your mission and not taking your time to find out about God and his Jesus Christ is son. I would encourage you to think it over and mediate on these words of john about Jesus

John 1:4-5 “In him was life and the life was the light of men. And the light shines in darkness and the darkness did not comprehend it” That some light is still shining today while you still have time here on earth make sure you comprehend it.

A life driven by purpose

A purpose driven life is a life that has a spring in its steps and momentum to move in the direction of achievement and success. It refuses mediocrity and strives for the goals that it has before it. It stands up and carry’s on pressing forward when it experiences difficulty, set backs and problems. In other words it learns that trials, difficulty and problems are to be overcome. So when it encounters them it learns lessons and forges forward to the pre-planned destination. Here are further benefits of the purpose driven life.

Purpose brings meaning to your life – You know why people go to palm readers, witches or rely on astrology is because they want to find meaning in their lives. When life has no meaning we struggle and we don’t feel fulfilled. The purpose driven life gives meaning to your life which spars you to take action and improve your life and that of those around you. The truth is without GOD you can’t really find the meaning to your life. Someone once said that the greatest tragedy is not death, but life without purpose, because purpose gives you hope and without hope you can’t live a purpose driven life. The true source of Hope is purpose.

Purpose will simplify your life- Purpose will help you determine what’s on your agenda every day. Instead of being pulled into many different direction and confused on what you should do, purpose will present with the list of activities that are worthy for your time. It will also release you from the pressures that other people put on your time. Purpose will help you indentify the time stealers in your life. By this I mean the things that we start doing intending to do them for say 2 minutes and we end up doing them for 3 hours.

My time stealer was playing bricks on my black berry; I used to play that game for like 3 hour and I always only intended to play it for two minutes. I realized after about 3 weeks that if I did not delete that game off my black berry my life would be ruled by the game of bricks. Because I had purpose I was able to overcome this and re focus on my purpose. Can you indentify your time stealers? What are they? What are you going to do to get rid of your time stealers?

A life driven by purpose

According to the free internet dictionary purpose is the object toward which one strives or for which something exists; an aim or a goal. You will be called a man or woman of purpose if you are determined and have resolved to reach your goals regardless of what obstacles, feeling, or emotions you might have. This is the man or woman marching forward regardless of opposition, discouragement, past experiences, and have their eyes fixed on the goal ahead of them.

A life driven by purpose is a life looking forward to what’s going to be achieved, attained and accomplished in future. It’s a life that has chosen to move on and forget about past hurts, bad memories and unhealthy worrying. It is a life that has, sort to forgive others and sort forgiveness for its own wrongs from God. You will know you are around such a life because most of the time what it talks about is positive, solution seeking and always seeks to encourage and empower you and itself to progress in life.

There are five benefits that Rick Warren talks about in his book; we will look at these tomorrow. This life is not controlled by materialism and its source of approval is not in others but the goal set before it. This is the life I believe that brought electricity to the world, invented some of the best medical breakthroughs in history, helped add value to your life by giving you an opportunity to learn and is constantly working behind the scenes to bring out new inventions thereby raising our living standard. You have been given the key to open the door to a purpose driven life, embrace it and gave us an opportunity to enjoy what you have to offer the world

The Value of drive

I hope as we have been looking at the value of drive you are begging to identify what drives your own life. Your drive can sometimes hide your motives, and if you really what to know what is your motive for doing sometime search your heart and think about what is the primary force ruling your actions? Whereas motive is the reason, aim or intention for doing something, drive guides motive into how and why to do it. Now let’s look at three more things that can drive our lives;

Driven by fear-sometimes past traumatic experiences such as being abused by some can cause us to fear. Or some people come from families where they have over protected and controlling parents, then over time they become afraid of doing things by themselves. These people miss great opportunities because they are afraid to venture out, instead they play it safe, avoiding risks and trying to maintain the status quo. The next value I will be taking about in the next two days is the value of risking taking so if driven by fear tune in I will definitely have a word to encourage you.

Driven by the need for approval- there are those who let other peoples expectation about their lives control them. It could be career demands that their parents have placed on them, or performance expectation that coach has for them, or even may friends controlling their lives. If you find yourself in this category, my advice to you is “that the followers or a crowd normally get lost in it” (Rick Warren), if you want to surely fail please and follow everyone.

Driven by Materialism- there some people who are driven by the desire to acquire the latest Gucci bag, the latest I-phone or the latest thing in fashion. They think that having material possessions will bring happiness in their lives. What they don’t realize is that having material things only make you happy for a little while, because things change quicker we eventually become bored and want bigger, newer or latest versions. Do fail into the trap of believing that having more money will make you happy. Don’t get me wrong I want you to make as much money as you want just don’t let money and material stuff make you.

The value of drive

In his bestselling book the purpose driven life Rick Warren advices that a person can be driven by guilt, resentment, anger, fear, materialism, need for approval. Let’s explore these further and get a clear understanding how the value of drive works;

Driven by guilt- This is the sort of person who is ruled by regrets and the need to hide their shame. The source of these regrets and shame originates from memories. Simply put they allow the past to control their future. A while back I was running and looking behind me to see if a bus was coming, and as I kept on running I kept on bumping into different people. One person complained

“Can’t you watch where you are going?” the next person said

“Ouch!!!! Did you have to step on my foot mate?” and still the 3rd one said

“Are you crazy cant you watch where you are going?”

Guilt driven people are always looking backwards and constantly hurting themselves with painfully memories. They are prisoners to their past, the best way to release yourself from this sort of painful torment is by learning from your experiences and constantly focusing on the lessons rather than the hurt and reason for the hurt.

Driven by resentment- the people driven by resentment always feel bitter and offended over something that someone did to them. Instead of seeking forgiveness and redress to the hurt they hold to it and it becomes a video they play over and over in their mind. What they don’t realize is the only person they are hurting is themselves, as they person who offered them might have moved on and no longer remembers the episode. The best way to drive yourself out of resentment is to guide yourself into forgiveness and let go and let God.

Driven by Anger- a person driven by anger is easily irritated, enraged or annoyed. Because of some past experiences they are always on the defensive. They easily blow up and explode onto others. In friendship you have to be careful about such people because they would normally get you into trouble than good. Stop at think for a moment, do you know anyone who is driven by any of these characteristics mentioned above? Have you at a point in your life been driven by one of the above characteristics?

The value of drive

The common definition for the word drive is to propel, control, direct and guide. Pertaining your life if I was to ask you what control’s it, what propels it, what directs it and where do you get your guidance from what would your answer be? The value of drive can be looked at as the source of the energy that influences, rules and control your life. Generally when you ask people at different points in their life they will tell you they are either driven by a problem, pressure, and deadline to meet, a painful memory, a haunting fear, their circumstances or emotions

1. Driven by problem

There are those who are driven by problems to which they see no way out so their main focus is on the problem. They think of the problem and focus mainly on the negatives aspects of it. While there are those who a driven by the need to find solution to the problems they are facing. The solution focused people drive themselves out of any problem they face.

2. Driven by pressure

Whether it is political pressure, peer pressure and organizational pressure, those driven by pressure are influenced by the pressure exerted by a peer group in encouraging a person to change his or her attitudes, values, beliefs or behavior in order to conform to group norms. Social groups affected include membership groups, when the individual is "formally" a member (for example, political party, trade union), or a social clique. A person affected by peer pressure may or may not want to belong to these groups. Peer pressure can cause people to do things they would not normally do, e.g. promote hatred, take drugs, smoke, get a girlfriend, marry, get a job, have children, buy items they don't really need (cars, houses, boats), etc. So always check those around and how they influence you and remember to remain true to yourself, your values and beliefs.

3. Driven by deadline

Sometimes we set unrealistic deadline or people set deadlines that we have to meet and the duration of reaching this deadline the attainment of it becomes the primary focus of our life. A classic example is towards the end of every year and end of April most accounts departments for many firms have a deadline to meet and during this period everything is left on the way side and the primary focus is on the year end.

I will encourage you stop and have look at yourself and ask what is driving your life?

THE VALUE OF HARDWORK

When I say that so and so is a hard working person what picture comes into your mind? To me the picture that comes to mind is of someone who comes to work on time, consistently achieves their set goals or objectives, always lending a hand to other members of team because the understanding of together we are stronger.

While excellence deals with doing things right and creatively, hard word deals with putting your heart and soul into your task at hand ---giving it 100%? Without using shortcuts, slacking, or cheating! People who are committed at this level of service are always easy targets for promotion and progression in any organization. You would be surprised that research has shown that only 5% of the work force are committed to this level of productivity.

Ask your this question are you with the 95% or 5%?

ZIGGY DUST-DANCING ROAD CLEANER

Zizzy dust as we have come to know him is a polish road sweeper in Chiswick, West London. He rose to stardom on you tube and world press by showing extra-ordinary passion to his work (sweeping the street). What has marked him out from other road sweepers is the fact the he sweeps, dances and have fun while he is doing it. Here is a couple of comments from the people who have seen Ziggy dust, zinging on the streets.

Jackie Carr said: "I love the dancing bin man who works in Chiswick High Road. He makes me smile every time I see him." Kieran Loughran said: "The dancing bin man is a breath of fresh air." (Sourced from the evening standard) How many of us would say something that positive about a street sweeper. I bet not many, when you pursue excellence with passion in what you do, you will get you noticed even in places where people would not normally notice you.

Now here is what the man himself had to say about his road sweeping?

"I dance while I am working as it makes it more fun. I love music and dancing. I am used to performing and I get a great reaction from people in Chiswick. Mothers stop with their children and dance with me and one old lady phoned the council to say she wanted to take me for a cup of tea on my break. It is not the most interesting of jobs but I am very happy doing it as I make other people happy and have made lots of friends." (From the Evening Standard Newspaper). To him what gives him joy in his work is the people he makes happy.

If you want to have a laugh and see why ziggy is making people happy please follow the link below for a video of Ziggy in action.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THFTwkNJVe4

The 8 things that the value of excellence will require of you

If you are passionate about your work, have a persistent commitment to quality, and will continue with a relentless attention to details then you will have the essential markers of excellence. Quality work and an appreciation for the importance of details benefit not just the clients a business serves; these attitudes and habits also bring joy and peace of mind to the person who delivers the work. To know how to do something exceptionally well is to enjoy it. The last four habits you need for excellence are;

5. Paying attention to details

The thing behind every outstanding act is always found in the smallest of details."If you long to accomplish great and noble tasks, you first must learn to approach every task as though it were great and noble. Even the biggest plans depend on the success of the smallest components. Many people downplay small details, dismissing them as minutia-the "small stuff," that we're encouraged to ignore. But, in fact, our whole environment is simply collection of small details.

Successful people, in many walks of life, understand the importance of detail: Watching CSI you will notice that crime scene investigators know that it's often the smallest, most obscure detail that results in the arrest and prosecution of criminals. In Athletes coaches are all too aware that one minor misjudgement can swing momentum to their competitor and result in a loss rather than a win.

6. Loyalty

Watch your words, never speak negatively about your boss or be around those who do because you do not want those seeds to be planted inside of you. Loyalty includes taking charge of bad thoughts. Don’t think of your boss in a bad way. Every thought you have produces something in my life. Negative thoughts will produce negative fruit in my life. Make it your deliberate effort to focus mostly on the good parts and before you know it as you think so it will become.

7. Perception

Pay attention to the perception that your boss has of you because it is generally his reality of you. Anytime my boss sees me working it should as if I am working hard. Perception is more powerful than truth. If my boss perceives me as a hard worker I will get a raise. Remember your boss can’t be there every single hour to see how hard you are working so the limited time he is there make sure he perceives you as a hard worker. Perceptions guard it, protect it and enhance it.

In case you are wondering what is the 8th thing you have to do to becoming excellent, commit to doing the first 7 things and before long the 8th will become clear to you when it does will you please post a comment on my blog and let me know?

The 8 things that the value of excellence will require of you

Every time I come across someone who is in pursuit of excellence I astonished how rich and valuable it is to be around them. First it is the pace and momentum by which they do things, the energy they exude and the beauty of seeing their finished excellent work. If you want to cross over into excellence you must be willing to pursue the following habits;

1. Love solving problems

Don’t be intimated by problems, take them head on. Because in the process you will be learning something new, that will help you understand your job better or perhaps even maybe yourself. Research has shown that people who like solving problems are almost always promoted in their places of work and always also easy to get along with.

2. Discover what is the most important thing to the person you are serving.

When I was a teenager I used to work for Marks and Spencer and my boss at the time set us targets. But his main thing was he wanted his staff workers to be on time every morning. Even though I met and exceeded my targets he was always unhappy with me then, because of my time keeping. Eventually he had to let me go because I was hitting my target for work but not the target that is important to him that is time keeping.

3. Serve or give of yourself as you would like other people to give/ serve to you.

Imagine you are the most important person around, how would you like to be served? Now imagine you are serving yourself when you’re serving someone else. What kind of service would give to you? Give that to others you will be surprised how this simple exercises elevate your excellence and joy in serving.

4. Be willing to do or give more than is required of you

The people we celebrate in history, literature and religion gave more that was required of them. Think of mother Teresa and the orphans and the poor of Calcutta she gave more than was required of her and now even those she is dead she has inspired thousands of people to follow in her footsteps.

Friends will you please be committed to a life lived excellently by loving to solve problems, indentifying what is important to the people we serve, giving and serving others as we would like to be served and a willingness to do and give more than is required of us. Please write areas where you want to start serving excellently?

The value of excellence

Excellence or excelling in everything that you do is reversed for those who are willing to give more than is required of them. You will know you are pursing excellence when you arrive at your work place 15 minutes early and leave 15 minutes late. You know you are excelling when you are a keen problem solver and always on the look out for problems to solve. You will also know you are excelling when you are willing to stretch your hand and help your colleagues.

The opposite of excellence is mediocre, average or ordinary. You will know you mediocre when you are always passing the buck back and unwilling to be blamed for what is clearly part of or wholly your responsibility. You will know you are average when you are willing to settle for the status quo and refusing to exert yourself. You will know you are ordinary when everyone you hung out with including yourself is always complaining about the some old things, blaming the some old people and disappointed with some old situations.

The quality of work I do is completely under my control. I can continue to do sloppy and inefficient work or I can learn to excel. That is entirely up to me. How do you develop excellence then? There is 8 things you need to do to develop excellence as a value. Are you ready for the 8 keep reading and turn up at the same time tommorow and you will get the first four things you need to do?

The value of being reflective

Do you sometimes stop,think and look at where you have come from? Do you sometimes stop and enjoy the smell roses? Do you sometimes stop and take the people who really matter in your life for a meal or a walk? Do you sometimes stop and cheer someone else with a word or a song? Do sometimes stop and enjoy the journey.

Looking back every now and then helps you appreciate the progress you have made, the people who made it possible and the lessons to take forward in this journey of life. The best time to reflect I have found in my own life are early morning, at the start of season (every three months) and when attempting something new.

Sometimes I will reflect on the people I know, the once who are succeeding and the once who are failing and I would idolise the characters and values of the ones who are succeeding. In the some way learn lessons I should avoid from the ones who are failing. Sometimes my reflection is not actually for me but for a friend who needs encouragement.

Take time to reflect you will be amazed how some of the answers to the problems you are facing will begin to appear.

The value of endurance

When I was in college I used to head a society and I did lots of good things with the student union. If I was to do it again I would stop and enjoy every moment of it. You see the day I finish college I felt an emptiness that I could not really explain. What was weird was that I should have been celebrating but here I was feeling empty. The lesson I learnt from this is that the process of achieving something is more important that the actual achievement.

Really and truly it is in the climb that we really find and shape our selves. It is the trials that we lose what is not necessary for the journey to gain what will be valuable for other similar or greater journeys. In Scot Anderson book “think like a billionaire, become a billionaire” he tell how he was Watching a documentary on discovery channel and it showed the process of how new chicks get out of the egg. The chick starts to peck at the shell, a little at a time. It takes forever but keeps working at it and working at it. The mama hen just stands next there and watches

You might ask “why don’t you help?” I though “just kick the stupid egg so we can get on with the next show. You could have it out in a few seconds. By the end of the show the show they had an answer to the question. If the mama hen helped the chick get out of the shell, the chick would die, because as it is pecking at the shell, it builds up its calculation. Which increases its strength, builds up its endurance; it strengthens the muscles that it will need to survive once it is out of the shell. If mom helped the chick would die.

Like the little chick we need to endure some trial, problems and people. Remember it is in an endurance that we increase in muscle and strength for larger and greater things. Will you value endurance?

The Value of giving your best to your work and others

How many of you know some extra ordinary people out there? This weekend I was involved in helping to organize a four day event, and it was the first time rather than showing up for an event I was actually helping in the setting up and my oh my. There several things I learnt from this event, for sure that there is a lot of hard work that goes on behind the screens.

My purpose for writing this blog today to share a rare insight I learned this week. When you are working as a volunteer and the work that you are doing brings you satisfaction because you know you have given it your best. That is called brilliance. When you are working as a paid worker and you double check your work to ensure that everything is done correctly and neatly that’s called excellence.

In the end the person who is seen as an extra ordinary person must surely be the person who is willing to put the extra work. Nothing brightens my day more than dealing with a person who takes pride in what they do and goes the extra mile. For some reason when you are in their presence they actually seem like they want to solve a problem or give you the best of the service they are offering you. To tell you the truth i know companies would determine to pay top dollar for such a person.

Friends please determine to be an extra-ordinary person by ensuring that whatever your hands find to do, do it with all your might. Tomorrow I will be taking on steps to take to become an extra ordinary person.

Christian Values- The value of living by faith

“Now faith- is to be sure of what you hope for and certain of what you do not see” Hebrew 11:1

What are hoping to achieve in life? Have you ever thought of leaving a legacy? What areas in your life do you think you can make a unique contribution to your community and the rest of humanity? A while back I asked Jamie an Irish friend of mine these some questions and I can recall several other people I asked the some question and the answer was;

“Andrew that’s a heavy subject”

One of the things that frustrate’s me more than anything in the world in is to know people who are living their lives on autopilot. Occasionally you hear them say they want to achieve this and the other but you never see them step out in faith and following the dreams that is knocking at their door and seeking to be fulfilled through them.

Have you ever stopped and wondered if there is anything you can do to make a difference in your community? Why are you keeping your community waiting? While the community is waiting, things are not getting better, take a leap of faith do something that will impact you life and the lives of others.

The four categories of values

Today I want to take a moment and acknowledge that everything I am and everything I will ever hope to achieve, attain or accomplish. I have and do because of Jesus Christ. I cannot do anything without the help of the Holy Spirit and God and Jesus. If it were not for their help and their grace on my life it would not be possible for me to get to where I am now. I just want to say thank you for the grace extended to me to hit my 26th blog. I am humbled by the grace God has given me to write and to inform the world the desires he has put in my heart.

The values that have brought fulfilment and meaning to my life have been my Christian values. The friendship that I know I can always relay on has been with the Holy Spirit. The strength that I get to do everything I have do so far and to write is from God. The words that bring life and meaning to every problem I have faced and will face are from Jesus.

Dear reader if you will find time and begin to develop an awareness of God. I assure you, you will be opening a door to an extra ordinary life. Friend I want you to think of this as the best information I have ever shared with you. Back to my topic the four categories of values are Religious values (Christian Values), Family values, Community values and Personal values. During the coming days we will be looking into this in details.

Living by values

What are values? Values can be defined as the things which are important to us and from which we consciously or unconsciously make or base our decisions. Values determine what we are naturally drawn to, how we spend our time, what action we take, how we map our world and the world around us.

Most people in life sometimes have their values violated and you will hear them complain about bad things that people have done to them. But they will not be able to clearly tell you why they feel bad. This is because they have not taken the time to define their values or things that they hold dear in their lives. It is like having pain on your body, and not being able to tell where the pain is coming from, because you don’t know the body parts.

Over the next coming weeks I am going to focus on different values my question to you is have you discovered your values yet?

The story of Rolls Royce Part two

“Who by the works of their hands brought salvation to our country” said to workers of the Rolls Royce spitfire engine?

This tradition of perfecting products did not end when Sir Henry Royce built the first smokeless and noiseless cars. But during the Second World War By 1932 it was becoming apparent to Rolls-Royce that their best-selling engine, the 21.2 litre 745HP Kestrel was coming towards the end of its development life. A decision was made by Sir Henry Royce to develop a new engine using some of the experience of the Schneider Trophy winning 'R' engine.

The same man who had developed the first noiseless and smokeless car was now called upon to come up with a plane engine that was noiseless and smokeless. The engine went on to be used on the Spitfire which is a British single-seat used by the Royal Air Force and many other Allied countries through the Second World War. It was produced in greater numbers than any other British aircraft and was the only Allied fighter in production throughout the war. This was because it was harder for the Germanys to detect it because it was less Smokey and noisy.

The above quote is carved at the Royce Company offices in Derby in recognition to the excellent innovation during Second World War. If you want your name to leave a lasting impact for the coming generations I provoke you to start thinking innovatively.

TAKE TIME- Be innovative (End-user/Incremental innovation)
The story of Rolls Royce Part one

Radical innovation is concerned with exploration of new technology and is fundamentally different from End-user/ incremental innovation that is concerned with exploitation of existing technology. End-user innovation involves interaction the consumers have with the products they buy and how they might improve a product they are frustrated with. The story of Henry Royce the founder of the Rolls Royce Car Company is one of the best stories I could find to illustrate End user/ Incremental Innovation. It is said that Henry Royce started making one of the world’s most luxurious cars with an investment of £30. If you can recall watching a movie set in the late 19 century early 20th century you will notice that most of the cars from that period were very noisy and Smokey.

Henry Royce owned one of these cars at the time, and was determined to make the first car without a noisy and Smokey engine. Cars in this period were fitted with two cylinders, but Sir Royce dreamed a way of fitting six cylinders and having a creative engine to eliminate the noise and smoke.

Royce had always worked hard and was renowned for never eating proper meals which resulted in his being taken ill first in 1902 and again in 1911. Ill health had forced his move away from Derby in 1912. In the same year, he had a major operation in London and was given only a few months to live by the doctors. In spite of this he returned to work but was prevented from visiting the factory, which had moved to larger premises, fitted out to detailed plans by Royce, in Derby in 1908. He insisted on checking all new designs and engineers and draughts men had to take the drawings to be personally checked by him, a daunting prospect with his well-known perfectionism.

If you ignore the fact that he never had proper meals and focus on his passion and determination to see improvements, then you will realize at the heart of end user innovation is passion and determination. Tomorrow I will be finishing the story of Henry Royce in the mean time I want you to think if of any products that you dislike at the moment? How might you improve it for us and you to like it?

TAKE TIME- Be innovative (Radical innovation)

Innovation throughout human history has spurred on human development, though it has always being add to pin it down as the root cause of development in business, science and policy making. But I would like to remind you that every time that they have made a breakthrough or advances say in the cure for polio, better treatment for cancer are they not implying innovative advances? I want to focus on two kinds of innovation at this time that is Radical innovation and end user innovation (incremental innovation). Radical innovations often draw on new scientific knowledge generated in universities and research organizations.

The 20th century witnessed dramatic medical inventions – a vaccine against yellow fever, Fleming’s discovery of penicillin, Salk’s development of the oral polio vaccine, Barnard’s first heart transplant. These and other discoveries have had widespread benefits unimaginable a century before and the pace of discovery shows no signs of abating. In 2005, the average UK life expectancy for men was 78 years, compared to 66 in 1950 and 48 in 1900.2 the next wave of discoveries is likely to be treatments and cures for cancers and for the diseases of ageing, such as Alzheimer’s.

In business long-term corporate success is linked to the ability to innovate. Although corporate investment in improvement to existing products and processes does bring growth, it is new game changing breakthroughs that will launch company into new markets, enable rapid growth, and create high return on investment.

But today it is inventions in electronics and communications that catch the imagination –Jobs’ and Wozniak’s development of the Apple computer, Berners-Lee’s invention of the World Wide Web and its exploitation by Page and Brin in the form of Google, and by Omidyar’s eBay. Arguably the biggest recent impact has come from the mobile phone, but here it is difficult to
Identify a single inventor. The nature of invention has significantly changed: modern inventions are largely the result of team work.

Can you radically drum up an idea, believe in yourself so much and you will literally make me write a story about you on my blog? You go out there and become a radical innovative person and together we will celebrate your achievement on this blog page.

Take time- Be innovative

Curiosity, research and determination to believe in something new and different are some of the keys to having an innovative mind. At this point in history quite a lot of money is being poured into innovation. Just stop for minute and think about some of the innovative ideals in the last 15 years? Think of the internet, social media,google, lap tops, ipods and many more,Can you see the role innovation plays in our civilization? What is innovation then?

Innovation is the process by which inventions are produced, which may involve the bringing together of new ideas and technology, or finding novel applications of existing technologies. Generally, innovation means developing new ways of doing things in a place or by people where they have not been used before. Modern innovation is usually stimulated by innovation systems and pathways.

I believe most of us have the innovative spirit within us in the next couple days I will be speaking about innovation and invention deeply. I have one favour to ask you though can you think of any product or service that you are currently unhappy with? What would need to be changed for you to like?

Take time to- think creatively take 2

Before I carry on with what I have to say today I just want to say thank you to Andrew (Canada), Emmanuel (England) and David (England) for your wonderful comments concerning this blog. I am ever so grateful for the feedback I got from you. Right, lets think creatively by looking at how substitution, Magnification, minification and rearrangement can help think more creatively.

Substitution- Ever thought of how you might swap or substitution the thing or the material you are using for something else? If you think of say the vacuum cleaner what was there before it? A broom, someone creative substituted the broom for the vacuum cleaner. Don’t assume that because a particular thing has always been used in the past it will always be used.

Magnification- As the name suggest think big in fact when you think magnification I would encourage to think super size, clothes, meals or drinks. Large screen LCD TVs, how would making what you are thinking about big make the product better or net more profits?

Minification- Today’s market is filled with products like Ipod nano, slim mobile phones, wireless microphone and small sized laptop computers. And what do we say to all this, it has made our live less bulky and easier to manage. And who do we owe this privilege to? The creative person who was willing to think minification.

Rearrangement- Do you ever sometimes turn things up-side down, and wonder what they would look like? Say the chairs you are sitting imagine if you designed up-side down would you like the design? The other ways you can think rearrangement is by turning things upwards, downwards and maybe inside out.

Having given you the seven ways of thinking creatively I now ask you to ask yourself which of these methods do you use frequently. Which of these methods can i use to solve a problem i am currently facing? If you ask yourself these questions and answer honestly and believe in yourself and your creative ability then welcome to the creative club.

Take time to- think creatively

The key to thinking creatively, it has been said is asking questions, but not just any questions open ended questions will unlock your creative juices. Every person who tapped into their creative mind liked asking the following questions who, what, where, when, why, how and if. Each question you ask is an opportunity for you to learn something new. Apart from asking these questions the creative mind thinks in one or more of the following 7 ways when presented with a problem. Associations, combinations, Adaptation, substitution, magnification, minification and rearrangement.

Associative thinking -The mental process of making associations between a given subject and all pertinent present factors drawing on past experience. Associative is quite good in helping you remember things easier and quicker since you associate two things together. It the sort of think that would help a child recall a bus as a car as they have the association of being vehicles

Combination thinking- as the name suggests it’s combining ideals, old and new, ancient and modern, from different background i.e psychology and theology, from different cultures African and European. This kind of thinking has helped give raise to things like musical comedy, 3D films and in a general sense what is now as the global village.

Adoptive thinking- What if you already had the knowledge you needed to make a difference? What if all you had to learn was how to apply that knowledge in a new, creative and adaptive way? What if you have to use the some product in a different environment? Would you remove/add something to make it work? You are right that is adoptive thinking.

So I hope I have kick started the creative process in your life, tomorrow be prepared to learn more about Substitution, magnification, minification and rearrangement.

Take time to- Be creative –Avoid the Processionary Caterpillar Syndrome

The renowned French Naturalist, Jean-Henri Fabre, in an experiment with processionary caterpillars was able to entice them on to the rim of a large flowerpot. Processionary caterpillars move through the forest in a long procession feeding on pine needles. They derive their name from their habit of following a lead caterpillar, each with its eyes half closed and head fitted snugly against the rear end of the preceding caterpillar.

Fabre succeeded in getting the lead caterpillar to connect up with the last one, creating a complete circle, which moved around the pot in a never ending procession. He thought that after a few circles of the pot, the caterpillars would discover their predicament or tire of their endless progression and move off in another direction. But they never varied their movements.

Through force of habit, the caterpillars kept moving relentlessly around the pot at about the same pace for a period of seven days. They would have continued even longer if they had not stopped from sheer exhaustion and hunger. As part of the experiment, food had been placed close by in sight of the group, but because it was out of the path of the circle, they continued in their procession to what could have been their ultimate destruction.

In their procession around the pot, they were blindly following their instincts, habits, past experience, tradition, custom and precedent—the way they always had done things. In reality, they got nowhere. As the adage states, “It is a form of insanity to do the same things over and over and then expect different results.”

Like the caterpillars, many people follow the crowd without stopping and asking themselves why am I following the crowd? Is the person leading qualified? Am noticing any changes in myself and those around me? The creative person is the one who is bold enough to ask questions, ask yourself are you determined to be that person.

Take time to- Be creative

If you have a problem do you ever stop and consider different possible solutions to your problems? If you have ideas do you ever magnify them and see them bigger than what you initially thought to allow you to stretch them? If you are out shopping for clothes do you ever stop to consider how what you are about to buy will match up with what you already have? If you answer is yes to all of the above question than you have been in involve in what is known brain storming.

Brainstorming is a process for generating new ideas, a key part of creativity is brainstorming. I want to encourage you to start thinking creatively today if you have any problem bothering you right get a piece of pen and paper out and start writing down what are the possible solutions to the problem, instead of focusing on the problem determine to focus on the creative solution to your problem.

I like the process of creativity because at its very essence it connotes the creation of something new. Now I want you think of yourself driving in a country road and you see black and white cows and brown cows in the field grazing would stop and take a photo of them? Why not because that what you are used to right? The other day a friend was driving on a country road and he noticed that cars kept stop to take a look at cows grazing in field you want to know why because these cows where painted purple and pink and every thought what a sight I got stop and take a picture of this. You see the creative process will make ordinary things look extra ordinary
Just to let you know that tomorrow I will be taking about innovation as part the creative process, but for today please start being creative

Take time to- Be grateful

“The single greatest thing you can do to change your life today would be to start being grateful for what you have right now” Oprah Winfrey

Today i have discovered the happiest place on the internet but before i share this. I just want to say thank you for reading my blog, am thankful that you will share and encourage more people to join in. You know the fact that I can see and have good health makes me say thank you. When i think of the poverty all around the world i am grateful that i am not directly affected by it.

Gratitude, thankfulness, or appreciation is a positive emotion or attitude in acknowledgment of a benefit that one has received or will receive. There are several benefits of gratitude like when you are grateful you feel healthier, it’s a motivator, it inspires success, makes you a better person and makes you sleep better. I will focus on gratitude as a motivator for good behavior

Gratitude may also serve to reinforce future pro-social behavior in benefactors. For example, one experiment found that customers of a jewelry store who were called and thanked showed a subsequent 70% increase in purchases. In comparison, customers who were thanked and told about a sale showed only a 30% increase in purchases, and customers who were not called at all did not show an increase. In another study, regular patrons of a restaurant gave bigger tips when servers wrote “Thank you” on their checks.

Now you want to know the happiest place on the internet visit

http://www.gratitudelog.com/

TAKE TIME TO- read books, attend self development seminars and listen to CD & DVD.
It is said of Abraham Lincoln that he never had much military experience during the American civil war. But as soon as the war started he consumed himself with books on military strategy and thought. Would you believe it historian have said that in most cases he became more successful at strategizing than most of the generals.

One of the key habits that the top 5% in any given society practice that separates them from the rest, is that the wealthy read on average two books a week, the wealthy know that reading and gaining understanding is the key to abundance. They have a burning desire for more information on every area of investing from real estate to stocks to business to marriage to parenting.

They constantly want to know they can get more information on most of these areas. It no wonders they climb higher in the ladder of life.

Most people think that self-help books are a last resort to fixing the problem. The wealthy see them as the start to not having a problem. I don’t know about you but i do know that it is crowded at the bottom, people are packed like sardines i am determined to hang out with the top five are you coming with me?

TAKE TIME TO- to learn from you.

If you ever met someone and for some reason you immediately felt that they can’t be trusted? Police officers often claim to observe suspects and there and then "know" that they possess a weapon or illicit narcotic substances. Often it has not been possible for them to articulate why they reacted or what prompted them at the time of the event, they sometimes retrospectively can plot their actions based upon what had been clear and present danger signals. Such examples liken intuition to "gut feelings" and when viable illustrate preconscious activity. To the lay person this is what is called Intuition?

Intuition is the apparent ability to acquire knowledge without inference or the use of reason. “The word ‘intuition’ comes from the Latin word 'intueri', which is often roughly translated as meaning ‘to look inside’ or ‘to contemplate’."Intuition provides us with beliefs that we cannot necessarily justify. Psychologist belief that intuition can encompass the ability to know valid solutions to problems and decision making. In other words some of the most initiative people are those who are constantly learning about themselves and their reactions to people, places and situations.

I have a life lessons journal and I can honestly say ever since I started keeping this journal. I am finding it is becoming easier and easier for me to know automatically what to do. It has really helped me develop my intuition. It would encourage you to have one and you will discover that self discovery is the best recovery.

TAKE TIME TO-Learn from other

As I pulled my chair closer to hear what she had to say about her experiences in the past three years. I knew I was in for an evening of entertainment and humorous learning. We were particularly lucky that at 6pm Cafe de Essen was empty and this place which is normally associated with a buss of activities was as quiet as the night. I looked around me and was impressed by the class roof and its project of light that gave the whole place feeling of warmth and comfortableness that you don’t normally find in cafes like this.

“It was the best decision I ever made” she said, picking up the glass

“Really.....how come??” I replied

“For the simply reason, that I used to wait for the BBC to pay me £2000.00, but know it like I can make that within two days” she said speaking with such clarity and expression of passion that it was hard to ignore what she saying

“Do you” I said

“Yes to me I can’t understand why most people are not doing”

The above conversation I was having with a friend who decided to pack their job and set up on their own. Now they have literally went from £2000.00 every month to making it every two days. Image that they are making in a month what BBC wanted to pay them in a year; I reckon they are earning almost a 12 year BBC salary in working on their own. Literally saving time on petty office politics, draining HR meeting and demanding inconsiderate persons.

My point is she has freed herself from the system, if we take time to learn from her maybe we too free ourselves from the system.

TAKE TIME TO-Review

Over the past six days I have being taking to you about being responsible? Where I defined the meaning of responsibility as us being accountable, owning up to our own mistakes, quitting the blame game, taking a look at ourselves and managing our reputation. Today I am starting a new series called take time to? Before I tell you what’s its all about I think we should “take time to review” what we learned thus far this week.

1. Remember if it’s something you keep complaining about the same topic in different settings maybe you opt to look at you.

2. Part of anything big and significant that is waiting to happen in your life is waiting for you to put the keys to the door called responsibility. Are willing to embrace this?

3. We must first take charge or we must first be responsible and then the change we desire will follow.

4. To know how accountable you are you have to be ready and willing to accept responsibility for your decisions and behaviours.

5. Reputation management - it is managing the reputation of a person. It mainly deals with a person’s character, trustworthiness and reliability. It looks at the person past, present and future and helps the person build a firm reputation that the outside world can depend and trust on.

6. Reputation management- is made up of the following components, Building, Maintenance and recovery.

Readers take time to review and your review will reveal. It will reveal what should hold your attention and what should not. It will reveal what went well and how to improve it and what went wrong and how to discard it. So take time to review and enjoy your weekend.

Being responsible- Reputation Management take 2

I was at a meeting today and I got taking to a friend of mine who happens to own an overseas property investment company, I told him what i was going to write on my blog today, after putting his hand on his chin for ten seconds he told me that to him what reputation management meant was that he was accountable to himself (his conscious), God, those around him, general family of humanity. Well now here are the three components of reputation management explained deeply.

Building – This type of reputation management has to do with building your reputation as of now with the new friendship and the old friendship seeing yourself daily as a reliable, trustworthy and honest person. It includes building a good reputation to maintaining it for your associate. You will know you are building a good reputation when people begin to depend more and more you because they know you can be trusted. This is the component of reputation management that deals with the future.

Maintenance – Reputation management meant to just keep your good image superior in the public eye is called maintenance. This is meant for persons that are already have a good reputation established, it is the component of reputation management that deals with present.

So how does your reputation management measure up?

Recovery – If in your past you gotten a bad reputation for any reason, then the recovery portion of reputation management is for you. This component of reputation management works by getting you to own up to your past mistakes and accept responsible for them thereby releasing you to recovery the lost reputation. It like admit the bad reputation begins with a good marketing of the new you. This component deal with the past

Being responsible- Reputation Management

There is a term I feel I should introduce you to and that is reputation management. Yesterday you looked at yourself and answered the questions I had on accountability. If you begin to look into yourself with a sober mind on a regular basis you will notice that you are beginning to manage your reputation as an accountable, responsible and trustworthy person.

What is reputation management then???-The reputation management definition -Obviously, it is managing the reputation of a person. It mainly deals with a person’s character, trustworthiness and reliability. It looks at the person past, present and future and helps the person build a firm reputation that the outside world can depend and trust on. It is made up of the following components, Building, Maintenance and recovery.

Tomorrow I will be looking into this three components deeper book you seat at the same time and i will help you manage your reputation

Be responsible-Take a Look at Yourself

How accountable are you? Does it depend on the situation, or are you always ready to accept responsibility for your decisions and behaviours? On a scale of 1-10, with 1 representing "Never" and 10 representing "Always," rank yourself on each of these characteristics of accountability. They apply equally to professional and personal situations.

1. I communicate regularly and accurately with associates.
2. If I don't understand something, I seek out information.
3. I own my own problems and circumstances.
4. When I make a mistake, I admit it.
5. I am proactive, often taking the initiative.
6. I ask for the things I need to do my job.
7. I analyze my activities and ask, "How is this contributing to organizational objectives?"
8. I analyze my activities and ask, "What more can I do?"
9. I stand and deliver when it's time to report on my actions.
10. I welcome feedback.
11. I model accountability for the people I work with and supervise.
12. I readily confront unaccountable behaviour in others.

Obviously, the higher the score, the better. Take a second look at items on which you ranked yourself at the low end of the scale. What can you do to become more accountable in those areas?

Being responsible- Be accountable stop playing the blame game

One way of measuring responsibility is accountability, but sometimes it seems like ducking responsibility has become epidemic. It is easy to pass the buck on someone these days and blame them for something we opt to be responsible for. In politics, sport, media, and our little communities everyone is playing the blame game

Accountability is a traditional idea that says you are responsible for your actions—and inactions. For the sake driving a clear point at you I am going to ask you a couple of tough questions today, are you are ready. If a questions comes up or something goes wrong, are you will to raise your hand and admit the part you played? are you open to scrutiny?

Unaccountable people are into excuses, blaming others, putting things off, doing the minimum, acting confused and playing helpless. They pretend ignorance while hiding behind doors, computers, paperwork, jargon and other people They say things like "I didn't know, "I wasn't there," "I don't have time," "It's not my job," That's just the way I am," "Nobody told me," "It isn't really hurting anyone," and "I'm just following orders." Unaccountable people are quick to complain and slow to act. In organizations, lack of accountability is a highly contagious disease.- Dianne Schilling (womens media)

If feel like I still have a lot to say about this topic so if you want to become more accountable you better be prepared for what’s on the menu tomorrow.

Being responsible- Take charge

“We must first become the change we want to see before the change comes to us” Mahatma Gandhi

Isn’t it interesting that Mahatma Gandhi went to inspire a nation of close to half a billion people to take charge and win their freedom from the British? I say interesting because he did this by advocating a non-violent way of winning this freedom. The part of his quote I really want to focus on is “we must first become” in other words we must first take charge or we must first be responsible and then the change we desire will follow.

Have you ever heard the story of this woman who woke up one morning and started complaining to her husband and kids that the house had a foul smell? If you have heard not it, here is your chance to hear it......now am told this woman said she would leave the house until her husband and kids had cleared the foul smell from the house, so she went to the hairdressers and at the hair dressers the some smell followed her. There too she complained saying;

“Can’t you buy Ambi pure for your salon or something I can’t stand that smell I am leaving until you sort out that smell?”

With frustrated look on her face off she went holding her nose saying,

“I can’t stand places that smell”

To make herself feel better she decided to buy herself a new pair of shoe and guess what at the shoe shop the same smell followed her.

You might ask how will I know when to take charge? Look at your life and ask yourself this what smell is following me around, what is the one thing or things I keep complaining about? How come it’s always everybody fault and not me? If you are ready to think this way then you are ready to take charge.

I was hoping you would leave a comment and let me know what you think of the blog so far?

Being responsible- The word?

Remember yesterday I said we were going to start taking about taking control, please see the quote below by Leo Tolstoy and ponder on what it might mean to you.....?

“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but nobody thinks of changing themselves” Leo Tolstoy

There are many reasons am in love with the English Language, but the most important reason is the flexibility you have in terms of using one word to describe another word. When it comes to the word responsibility this holds true more than any other word I can think of right now. Before I can fully dive into the many words to describe responsible, will you please allow me to present you with the best definition I have found for the word responsible;

1. Liable to be required to give account, as of one's actions or of the discharge of a duty or trust.

2. Involving personal accountability or ability to act without guidance or superior authority: a responsible position within the firm.

3. Being a source or cause.

4. Able to make moral or rational decisions on one's own and therefore answerable for one's behaviour.

5. Able to be trusted or depended upon; reliable.

6. Based on or characterized by good judgment or sound thinking: responsible journalism.

7. Having the means to pay debts or fulfil obligations.

8. Required to render account; answerable:

Looking at the 8 line definition above, have you being a responsible person?


In the next coming days I am going to talk more about responsibilities and taking control, I feel like I ought to tell you something about myself you don’t yet know. Part of anything big and significant that is waiting to happen in your life is waiting for you to put the keys to the door called responsibility. Friend will you accept this invite?

I will be sharing the stories that I have helped me become responsible...stay tuned you don’t want to miss an episode of this........

The law of control

“I feel happy to the degree to which I am in control” Andrew Bobaa
The level you feel that you are happy in control dictates your level of happiness. Have you ever been in the passenger seat, riding with a really bad driver? They are swerving in and out of traffic, looking way too much at you while they are driving, right on the back side of the car in front of you.
While you are in the passenger seat, you are stressed out, not happy, not relaxed. This goes for life. When you are not in control of your life you are not happy you are stressed out, full of fear worry, anxiety.
When life is out of control and you are a victim to circumstances, it is impossible for you to be happy. When you feel like you have to go work, you have to do what the boss says and you have to go home to a marriage that feels like a trap, you have no control over your life whatsoever. The only time you have control is when you have control of the remote control to watch what you want on telly. This is why so many people spend so four to five hours a day watching tel-a lie-vision. You know why because it is the only time they have a sense of peace, because it is the only time of the day they feel like they are in control.
Readers, ask yourself this, what am l in control of? the remote control or my life? Stay tuned tomorrow we will embark on journey of taking control.